Men are applauded for what?
Awwwwww! He cooks?!like what’s awwwww now? I have never heard anyone say “ awwwww! She can on the generator!”. Why don’t you say awwww! He can bathe himself? Just like a man should know how to shower and clean himself up and everybody sees it as normal, his possession of other survival skills should be seen as normal.
Basic survival skills
There are basic survival skills every individual should have, this includes; knowing when to rise up in the morning (yes, I am including this because some people do not know how to rise up in the morning without mommy’s help or an alarm clock), cleaning (both yourself and your environment), cooking, using basic facilities (you don’t need to call your neighbour for the littlest thing- this is for the most for the females, Kunle, please come and help me on gen, my tap is shaking, help me fix the gas cylinder e.t.c), driving! (yes, driving is a survival skill, whether you own a car or not, you don’t know when it will come in handy) even communication skills is a survival skill.
Let’s go back to my main purpose of writing. It annoys me, I always totally appalled whenever I find people especially women gushing about men that can cook and clean. Like wait, how can you possibly survive without food and a clean environment? that’s basic health. You can’t have good health if you eat crap and live in crap! It is totally fine to eat out and have a cook if you can afford it, honestly, it is ok to have all your clothes laundered by a laundry mart and have a housekeeper come around to clean up and all, I mean who wouldn’t love that? But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to do it your self whenever the need arises.
Nobody (parents, relatives, friends), no individual should ever think in their heart or open their mouth to say, “ahan! These chores are not for boys now, why is boy boy doing the dishes when his sister is here? Boys are not supposed to come into the kitchen, so you can’t wash your brother’s clothes, how will you now be a good wife?” Please normalize all these for the boys!
I am a strong believer that both genders should be independent, know how to do what you ought to know how to do! Yes, in the end, we would be partners, we will help ourselves but you know how to do what you ought to know how to do makes it easier and makes us happier.
Moreover,all of us must go through the single phase of life ,away from your parents, yet no spouse. It is guys that have deprived themselves of simple survival skills that will turn their girlfriends to slaves, the worst is that these guys feel so entitled because of how much the society has brainwashed them into thinking they shouldn’t concern themselves with activities like that. Lol, it doesn’t make you more of a man, it only makes you less, it only makes you seem lazy and incompetent.
Thank God for machines that have made things easier, especially cleaning, which means less effort, more work done, terrific!
Dear boys, screw what the society says about you and your gender roles ,deep down, very deep inside you ,you know what is right ,do it. We are trying to make the best out of the next generation, it starts from you , every individual, unlearn what you ought to ,learn what you need to. It is a cleansing process, it might take sometime but it will be soon nice .
Dear mothers and sisters, normalize boys helping at home , normalize them helping with even the littlest chores. It helps ,it treats selfishness and irresponsibility. I look forward to more responsible boys who grow to be amazing fathers and husbands 😌
Dear Fathers and uncles, it is not a taboo, it is perfectly fine . It won’t make him less of a man don’t worry . It will only help him turn out right 😁☺️
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