Firstborns carrying the weight of their parents’ expectations
First borns carry the weight of their parent;s expectations

Firstborns carrying the weight of their parents’ expectations

Firstborn struggles

Being the first born in Africa is no joke at all, and I believe that’s how it all over the world. It is just like as you’re born you’re christened (using my self as a case study) Chiamaka, mother and father of all her siblings. On this head shall be many, so many and even unnecessary responsibilities, these two little ears shall hear very constant yells and shouts. We Shall totally forget you’re a child yourself and expect you to be the all knowing. You shall take the responsibility of training your younger ones, we believe you must be well experienced from your past life and honestly? We don’t really care if you had that either. Just be a good child and lead your siblings alright. Every mistake your siblings make shall be put on your head. You better be omnipresent with an eagle’s eyes and yes! Lest I forget, you must be omniscient too.

Parent: your younger brother fought in his class and got injured? Where were you?! Firstborn: I was in my class mom.. Parent: doing what? What were you doing in class when you ought to be taking care of your younger brother, you should know better. Firstborn (totally confused, wondering if it was wrong to be class).

Honestly, parents need to relieve these kids of all this unnecessary stress. It chokes, we can’t breathe! Coming out first from the womb shouldn’t be a crime! 

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I wanted to be sure it wasn’t just me , I just wanted to be sure so I did a survey on WhatsApp, I asked my friends who are firstborns to share their experiences with me and omg !😆😂😂😂

First Child

There is no lie here , feel free to argue the comment section

First Child

Like I said you’re like the father and mother , everything will be on your head , when you can barely take care of yourself , you will take care of father, mother and their children

First Born

There were also comments like ” omo I don suffer , I no fit talk self.

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First Born

At lot of firstborns have lost themselves trying to ‘comport’ themselves , trying to be perfect and blameless , to avoid that scolding, to be the perfect example. The pressure is tooooo much . Please allow firstborns go through their own growth process before they start to nurture or help someone grow . They are kids too , take it easy !

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Sometimes, you notice they start to transfer aggression to their siblings because they are literally walking frustration! You hear younger ones accusing firstborns of been mean , it is just frustration darling , hug your mother’s firstborn today and tell them they are doing well, ooiinnnn😂 To all the firstborns out there , the lord will reward all your labor of love 💕

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Being the firstborn is not a curse , but a blessing. You’re strong ,kind, wise, essential, you’re worth more than you know , you’re an icon , a world changer , you’re everything the world needs . Breathe!

P.s: i would love to read about your own experience too. Share them with me in the comment box!

Also check out my last post and share with friends too..

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