why do you think that people who move with successful people are always termed Successful?

Have you ever felt like the person whose Shoulders brushed yours on your way out is Someone you know?

Judging from these questions, It sounds like I want to rush into motivational Speech, well Nope!

We are just going to learn.

 Now,  Association can be said to be the mental connection of things. Sounds simple, doesn’t it?

One of the major ways our minds remain active is by linking things and thoughts together,  for example, I say Lion and you think brave, courage or Royalty.  This is because your mind has linked those words together. And so, you think of one and remember the other Simultaneously.

You heard a voice coming from across the road. Not like anything metaphysical but you just felt like that was your Sister and you instinctively look at that person. Now I’m going to show you how it works.  They are called the Principles of association


  • Association by Congruity.

It is the principle that ideas and experiences are linked when one is frequently seen or experienced with the other.  For example, if I constantly see thunder and lightning together in a sentence.  My mind unconsciously associates both of them. They become linked. So the next time I see just thunder alone I think of lightning too.

This is actually the root of conditioning . Conditioning is basically reinforcing the strength of a behaviour so that it becomes a pattern. So Congruity builds up conditioning.

  • Association by Similarity.

This focuses on two things that are not exactly the same but can be used interchangeably. My mind happens to associate two things that are similar to each other,  simply because they are similar. Interesting isn’t it?  This explains why whenever you think of resting the next thing that unfailingly  comes to mind is sleeping .

  •  Association by Contrast.

 This can be seen as linking a situation or a word with its opposite. This is why mind training is extremely important. Wrong thoughts are allowed as a result of the law of contrast. I’m interested in a contest. I have not even applied for it and the next thing that sneaks into my Head is “what if I fail ?”

We ought to always seek to see the positive side of things.  While conditioning in this case can prove to be a default setting for some people.  It is paramount that the mind is trained deliberately

In Conclusion,  Association has got a lot to do with the mindset.  Why did I say that?

These principles take us through a process of learning, unlearning and relearning. For instance ” I’m thinking about making the best grades in school this session or making the greatest sales this year”.

The next thought I see coming is “do you even think that’s possible?” kind of thought , but I have already made provisions for these thoughts so there’s a counter- thought back up plan if I do not want to be associated with being rude. I should learn to speak kind words.

If I need to be successful and make good progress, I should learn to move around Successful  people who are making progress the way I love. It is called Wise Association.


Igbokwe Daberechi goes by the pen name -Dabby. She is a writer, voice over artist and a student engineer.

This Post Has 43 Comments

  1. Gloria

    Nice one

  2. Lilian

    And this is Awesome, weldone DD

  3. Nwajagu Adaeze

    Wow this write up is a reminder for me from now on to mind the company I keep. Thanks

  4. Actually, you have nailed it all Danny.
    The law of association can’t be overemphasize and every youth who is an aspiring leader in any field of endeavor must embrace this principle under mentorship and discipleship.
    Thank you so much you are doing well, the sky is where we’ll draw the starting line.
    More grace

  5. Gabby

    Nice write-up
    I so much learnt a lot from that

  6. Janerose

    Thumbs up Dabby .i see you leaving lots of footprints on the sands of time.

  7. Kama Stella

    Brilliant piece. I’m really impressed dabby with your writing prowess.

    1. Chidera

      Wow nice piece dear
      Keep it up

    2. Kamji

      Wow,you are indeed an amazing writer and a brilliant one. Please keep it up

    3. Joanna

      Very lovely and informative…a very nice one dear

  8. Janerose

    Thumbs up Dabby, I see you leaving lots of footprints on the sands of time.

  9. Somtie


  10. Chiamaka

    Wonderful one dear

  11. Abigail

    Beautiful post….I really loved it

    1. NeneEdochie

      Simply scintillating and directπŸ‘Œ. Way to go girl πŸ’ͺ❣️.

  12. Chiamaka

    Well said
    Ur love for writing no be here

  13. Emmanuel

    Nice article

    1. Esther Elom

      The law of association is a principle we must follow in our journey of becoming.Thanks for this nice piece Dabby.More ink to your creative pen.

  14. Nalu

    This really talked a lot about association. Thanks for this, Dabby.

    1. Amaka

      Enlightening, really nice, keep it up.

  15. Abigail

    Beautiful post πŸ˜βœ¨πŸ’œπŸ’œ

  16. OMG, you nailed it sweetheart. Never give up on this, you’re just so good in it. I enjoy reading your write ups starting from your WhatsApp status to anyother place I might find it. It’s an intriguing write up. Well done boss baby

  17. Chukwueloka Victory

    Keep the ink bleeding, Dame!!❀

  18. Raymond

    Wow.. gorgeous 😘

  19. Sharon

    Beautiful write up

  20. Emmez

    So much interesting write up, thumbs up dear, more grace.

  21. Ugochukwu Ezeh

    Interesting. Job well done

  22. Nneoma gina

    Nice write up dabbyπŸ’‹

  23. Michael

    I love this πŸ˜πŸ‘

  24. Jonathan

    Wow I like it, is nice
    Dabby you did a great Job here

  25. Chukwuezugo Kamso

    Amazing write up. You did well girl. Keep it up ❀️

  26. Jhane_Jhone

    Nice piece

  27. Chinenye

    This is a beautiful piece. Thank you for sharing dabby

  28. Buchi

    This is beautiful… Great work dear.

  29. Samuel Jr.

    Dabby jisike o
    More ink to your penπŸ‘πŸ‘

  30. Okonkwo promise Onyeka

    nice one

  31. Kingsley

    Dabby love.. A great personnel in you.. A leader.. You doing just great.

  32. Dabby

    Thank you everyone.. I just thought it necessary to share with anyone and everyone..
    What Association can for us all… Thanks again

  33. Chelsea

    This is purely the fact of life, it’s a beautiful piece… Well done dear

  34. Sommyrex

    This is beautiful ❣️
    Thanks Debby

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